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How To Deal With Three Common Challenges Of Domestic Adoption

You've always wanted a child, but having one of your own is not an option, for whatever reason. Adopting domestically works well for many prospective parents, but it is also not without its challenges. Luckily, these challenges are ones that you can address with the following advice.

Challenge #1: Playing the waiting game.

Many prospective parents assume that completing adoption applications will be the hard part. Once the applications are approved, you'll be all set, right? Well, not necessarily. What you may find is that after your application is approved, you are playing the waiting game — constantly waiting for the phone call that tells you your child has arrived. Here are some tips for dealing with the anxiety and impatience you may experience at this stage.

Challenge #2: Having to say "no."

What if you are offered a child who does not seem like a good fit for your family? Many prospective parents feel immense guilt in saying "no." However, you should bear in mind that by not adopting a child who does not seem right for you, you are preserving that child's chance of finding the family that is perfect for them. You can help minimize this type of problem by being as detailed as possible when telling the adoption agency what you are looking for and what you are absolutely not interested in. The more specific you are, the better the chances that the first child that comes up will be a perfect fit.

Challenge #3: Explaining your wishes to family.

You would think — probably even hope — that all family members will be supportive and on board with your decision to adopt. But sadly, not everyone is as open-minded, and some family members may express concern with your decision to adopt. Dealing with this negativity can be hard when you are confident that you're making the best decision for your needs. A good way to deal with this is to come up with an elevator pitch that you deliver each time someone expresses concern about your decision to adopt. This way, you won't find your mind racing to come up with a response each time someone comments.

For more information on adoption, contact an adoption agency like Arizona Adoption Help.